What is the primary source of your new business? Advertising? Direct marketing? Web-based marketing? Networking? Direct sales?
A group of ten business owners were talking about this during a recent Peer to Peer Advisors meeting. After a long and sometimes boisterous discussion, everyone around the table agreed that the #1 source for new business is referrals. The referral sources varied, but the most frequent sources were customers, vendors, employees, personal friends, and business acquaintances.
We logically concluded that building this web of relationships should be the #1 marketing priority for any business. The $64,000 question is – How do you build and sustain a powerful web of business relationships?
The answer is simple – How can I help you? That’s it. If you approach every relationship with that frame of mind, you will build strong relationships.
Building relationships is not networking. Networking is the “in” thing to do. Unfortunately, networking is treated as an activity. Go to an event, meet people, describe who you are, ask what they do, and exchange business cards. Possibly meet outside the meeting. All the while, you’re asking them for introductions, and they’re asking you for introductions. Mentally on some level you’re keeping score.
Building relationships is almost the direct opposite of networking. Think about the most successful people you know. They don’t network. They build relationships. They don’t ask for help. They offer it. Long term successful relationships are founded on giving — finding ways to make other people more successful.
So let me offer some thoughts and ideas to consider as you build strong relationships. First and foremost, be authentic. The quick-hit networking fiend comes off as transparent. They’re out for themselves, and that becomes quickly apparent. False front facades lead to short term relationships.
Second, follow through. Don’t offer help to someone unless you really mean it. Your actions will always speak louder than your words.
Third, don’t keep score. It doesn’t matter. What matters is the building of relationships. Relationships founded on a genuine desire to help someone. If you approach your relationships with an authentic desire to help, you will receive help in return. It’s human nature. People like to help each other, and they feel good when they can do that.
Next, be goal oriented. Set specific goals on what you want to achieve, and assign each goal a specific time frame. Referencing your goals, identify people who can help you reach them. Who are they? Where are they? How can they help? Ideally, identify a person with whom you would like to connect within the next 90 days.
Then get active. Attend events where the opportunity to meet key people might present itself. Research your list and find connections (Google them – it’s simple and it works). Look to the people you already know, and ask them if they can connect you to the people you would like to meet. Reach out through warm introductions, articles of interest, or books they might like to read. Use online social media tools like LinkedIn.
Finally, be respectful of your relationships. In today’s hectic climate, time is the most precious commodity. If you offer someone help, or are willing to make a connection for them, be respectful of the person you are connecting. If appropriate, check first to be sure the person you’re connecting with has the time to help.